Grudges are understandable sometimes: someone does something and it hurts you or upsets you. It's only natural to form some ill feelings towards that person. But really, why? What good will it do you to feel bad about them? It won't. I learned this hard way, but I am sure glad that I learned it at some point. You can be as mean or as mad or as bitter as you want, but you're just hurting yourself.
One of the most freeing things I've come to find is to just let go, to decompress. To take a step back from life, take a deep breath and put everything into prospective. What good will it do you to be mad at someone? It's a waste of energy, and that person is a human too. We need to love each other and care for each other no matter how hard it may be at times.
Another important lesson I've learned? The second you just forgive and forget and focus on being sweet and living your life, whatever problem you had goes away. The person you're in a tiff with realizes that it was also a big mistake, a big misunderstanding. Sweetness kills hatred, my friends. It's a tough lesson to learn, but once you learn it I promise that you will find more happiness than you've ever known. This is going from the ex-queen of grudge holding too, but the minute I realized that keeping ill feelings towards someone just makes me sick myself? Well, let's just say I've definitely come along way. Sweetness is the way to go. It makes you happy and anyone else around you happy, and that is the key to happiness. Spread the happy, it catches on. Try it for a week, see how it goes. Till then...happy Saturday :)